Do Asian men in the West have hard time to find a date?

Do Asian men in the West have hard time to find a date?

This maybe my personal judgement. I think Asian men in the west do feel the hardness about seeking a dream girl for dating, unless they are tall and high-educated. Most of them just look for the same race, only some open to White, Hispanic or Black women. They are small guys compared to Caucasian or Black men. They are about 5'2 to 5'9 in height, which is too short. Unless they go to college, earn a BS degree, get a good job, they have a hard time to find an Asian girlfriend or wife. There are not many Asian girls in the West so guys can't find them at ease. Most of Asian women set high standards on the man they are looking for. He must have at least a BS degree, good job and income to date or marry an Asian girl. I am using "girls", "women" and "females" on this article respectively.

Asian American man

Asian man is easily rejected by a woman.

Many Asian men must go back to their home towns to marry girls and sponsor them back to the West. They can't find a wife here because of their low income and poor living condition. They are too short so they can't date a Caucasian. Most white women are not attracted to Asian guys because of size. However, some Caucasians do prefer to date Japanese and Korean guys. They think that these guys are very polite and working hard. Japanese men have slightly slanting eyes which attract some white women. They are not that small body size compared to Vietnamese, Thai, and Chinese guys.

When Asia-born women migrated to the West, most of them are in fashion. They look so beautiful and attractive because of their beautiful skin, appealing eyes and sexy clothes which make many Western guys attracted to. In Asia, they are rated as 4/10, when they come to the West for a few years, they are 7/10. No joking about that. I am an Asian so I know how beautiful they are. When they first came to the West, they looked like country-side girls, after a few years, they are like city girls. If you go to the Asian markets in San Francisco or New York City, then you know how beautiful they are. So, they set high standards on what type of men they are seeking for in terms of dating and marriage.

When you go to Asian dating sites such as,,,, and so on, there are thousands of Asian women signed up online to find men who are engineers, doctors, or lawyers. They are just girls who are Asian, working as Nail Technicians, food servers, non-technical workers, but they set high standards in an ideal man they want to date and marry. A lot of men think that these ladies are narrow-minded who are far overshooting their standards. They can't find such a man in real life so they must go to online dating sites to find him. In fact, many Asian women have found such high-class men through these internet dating sites. As a result, Asian guys have hard time to find a wife if they don't have a Bachelor or Master degree.

Asian women who live in Australia, Canada or America have learned the Western culture where gender freedom is applied strictly. They changed completely when they came to the West, especially Asian women in Vietnam, Thailand, China or the Philippines. Most of these single Asia-born ladies set high standards on how to choose a husband. Those who married set high standards on how their husbands treat them. They need to be treated with respects. Some of them divorced their husbands one they immigrated here. So there are pros and cons about gender freedom because the woman now has more power than when they live in Asia.

How about Asian men dating Caucasian women?

It is even harder to get a chance.

Asian man vs white woman

Asian American men are pursuing to get a date from White women but they can’t stand a chance. Pay attention! You rarely succeed in getting a white girl. It is just too hard for you. You can try but the successful rate is limited. Asian men are the disadvantage in dating or marrying a white lady so resign it and give it up.

Many white ladies are not interested in dating Asian guys because of several reasons. They said that us are whining and complaining all the time. You are not social and afraid of change. And, others.

As you know that most white women do not like men who whine or complain all the time. When it comes to conclusion, let it be it, accept the way it is, stop complaining.

Most of Asian people prefer to online Asian dating services to find their own race. However, there are some Asians open to White ladies.


Have you used the social circle on Google Plus? This is exactly what a white woman wants. You will have more friends and socialize with others. You have to hang out with American, white or black, friends, don’t stick with only Asian folks. You must be social with white friends. Talk and share with non-Asian friends. She does not want you to hang out with Asian people only. Don’t take her to eat “Chinese food” or "Japanese Sushi" every time you go out. Take her to some expensive American restaurants, like Steak Houses, etc.

You don’t have to be a white man but try to adapt to American culture. White girls love Asian culture too. However, they want you to be Americanized as well. You have to change to get acquainted with American lifestyle.

How to get attracted in a White girl

Are you really interested in dating a white woman? We all do but you should not think too much. Stay in your boundary. You will end up with no result. I recommend that you go out there making friends with white guys, go out with them, learn from them, how they live, eat and act. Then, go to find a white girlfriend.

When I was in college, getting a white girl on bed is easy. However, dating her and maintain a good relationship with her is a different story. I recalled helping out a class mate on a math class a few times, she agreed to go to a motel with me. I can have sex with a white girl at ease but dating her is hard. She never said “I love you” while we were doing sex. Anyway, I am telling you, it is hard, guys.

However, if you are famous and rich, then yes, you can have a chance. You’re not Cung Le so it is difficult to marry a white lady. You’re not one of the popular MMA in UFC. You’re not a movie star. So, don’t dream on it guys.

Stereotypes between Asian people and white people are very different. And, Asian guys don’t have confidence, weak face, small body, small size "tool”, etc. Oh, man, many disadvantages are there for Asian men. How could you stand a chance to date a white girl?

How about Asian women & White men?

Most of American men judged Asian ladies are “Yellow Fever”. Do you know why this term is being used by many guys who are interested in Asian girls? You can answer this by yourself, can’t you? When a marriage is happened between a Asian woman and American man in US, relatives and friends of the bride’s side impressed. I don’t know why but that’s true. I think it is because they think the bride is smart that she wins his heart. However, there are some rumors about such Asian girls American guys marriages. I heard that some people admitted that most American men got married with not-beautiful Asian women. In other words, pretty Asian ladies don’t date American men, only ugly ones do.

Some of American friends told me that Asian women are submissive. You know what? I don’t like this phrase from these friends. I am Asian man so I don’t like they said our ladies are submissive because it is like a slap on my face when I heard that. What they mean is like you know, American men are “cavemen” who can rule over Asian girlfriends or wives. Shit, it is a slap on my face, you know? I hate that racist sentence. They think we still live in the 19th century. Come on, man, we live in the 21th century in America, the most country that has gender freedom. I am tired to explain more about this.
In conclusion, if you're Asia-born men who migrated to the West or you were born here, then you will have a hard time to find a date. I suggest that you try hard to study, get a good degree, earn great income, then you will be fine to find an Asian girl in the West.

Good luck and have a great day!

lisa.suh, 19891010, Houston-TX, Texas, United States

Not really. Pinoy men or Vietnamese men are having hard time which is right. Korean men are different. They can find a good Korean girlfriend in the US easily.

andy.suh, 19800817, Chelsea, Brompton, London, United Kingdom

I agree. It is hard for Asian men who live in the West to find a date. I mean, because of lacking number of Asian women compared that to men so it is hard to find the one. I am looking for Filipino women in the UK but it is too hard to find a right one. So I am open to all single Filipinas in the PHilippines.

Yvonnesong, 19890403, New Haven, Connecticut, United States

Seriously, that is so weird. a female author talking about a one night stand and not squeezing out the words “I love you”……….Hellooo!?!!!

Asian men flock to our universities, yet we are dumb white chicks?
Ok, ever heard of the Myers-Briggs personality test? It is generally administered by US corporations to job applicants to see if someone is introvert VS extrovert. And strangely enough… it does not really care about race.

Anata.wuh, 19920615, Isawa, Yamanashi, Japan

Okay number one you are a female author writing about being an Asian male having sex with white women? And, no white women aren’t that easy to bed, especially for Asian men. I think it’s pretty self explanatory that if we don’t like to date them, we also don’t want to sleep with them. Not all but most. So, stop making up rumors about us being sluts. Dating statistics show Asian men are highly unlikely to bed a white female.