Hi friends, I am Tony. I like to share this clip with you guys about one friend,. Bena, who lives in Manila Philippines. Bena likes to ask some questions about life in America, such as how to search and get married with a Western man, and some other stuffs like driver license, jobs, and so on. So, let’s get started.

Tony: Hi Bena, how’re you doing? How is Manila tonight? I am Tony, good to see you tonight.

–Hi Tony. I watched some of your clips on Youtube, that talk about Pinoy and Western men, life in the US, so I like to ask you some questions about that.
Tony: Thank you very much! I wrote some articles on my website as well as created some clips on Youtube to share my experience about life in the US for those Filipinas and Western men get know of. How a Filipina girl can find a Western man and vice versa? Thank you for watching my video clips.

Filipina girl

Filipina girl

–I like the way you said on one clip, nobody give you free things if they don’t gain anything, or, why most of Filipinas migrated to the West made better life?
Tony: Well, I remember I said “nobody give you free things if they don’t gain anything” on one article I wrote about scamming online through social sites such as Facebook, Zalo, Tango, and online dating services. If anyone send you messages about winning lottery or any big gifts, and ask you to pay the fee to receive it, then you should not believe it. I think this is the internet scams.
I also said “most Filipino women migrated to the West made better life”. I think a woman life that’ s happy or miserable depends totally on her husband’s attitude. According to our culture, most of Filipinas getting married is like to enter a gambling of life. When they get married and have lived with each other for some time, then they know if they are lucky or not, which depends on the husband. If she is lucky to get married with a good man, then her life is happy, joyful with laughs. On the other hand, if she get married with a bad husband, then her life is as miserable as hell, that filled with tears. As I have seen most of Filipinas got married with men in the West and migrated over here, they made better life. I mean, they can work and make good money in the West. I think in 2017, the Western countries like Canada, Australia and the US are still considered the land of opportunities.
Bena, can you please introduce yourself to the audiences?

Filipina woman

Filipina woman

–I currently live in Manila Philippines. I am a hairstylist. I am 22 years old. I am single.
Tony: You live in Manilla huh? I used to live in Manila too. How ‘re you doing over there?

–My friends told me that I am beautiful. Do you think I am beautiful, Tony?
Tony: They are absolutely right about that. You are pretty and sexy.

–Thank you, Tony.
Tony: You’ll welcome. Do you have any question for me? I’ll try to answer all of questions to the best of my knowledge. I have been developing and maintaining an dating site to hook up Asian women with Western men, especially Filipinas with Western men.

–I like to get married with a Pinoy or a Western man, how do I find him?
Tony: There are some ways to make friend with a Pinoy or a Western man. You can ask your relatives or friends in the West to hook you up with him. If you don’t have any, then you can find him through social sites such as Facebook, Zalo, Tango or Asian dating services. You can sign up a personal profile at any dating site and find him. I created since 2003, you can register a profile to get started. Anyone who sign up at an online dating website can read other profiles, but they can not see your email address. This is a hidden field so no one see it. Whoever is interested in your profile, can contact you and you two can go from there. So you have a chance to chat with some guys and choose the best one to marry with.

–When I get married with a man, how long does it take to come to America?
Tony: It depends. It takes about 1 year to sponsor a spouse from the Philippines to the US. When you and him know each other for a long time and decide to get married. He can meet you in the Philippines. He can sponsor you by Fiance or Marriage category. It takes about 6 months to sponsor a Fiance to America by K-1 Visa. After you come to the US, you have to get married with him within 3 months. There are some cases that he doesn’t have to travel to the Philippines to meet you. In this case, you have to travel to the US on your own, and get married with him in America.

–What kind of work can I do in the US? Where do Filipino people live when they immigrate to America? What do they do for a living?
Tony: Well, by far, about 50% immigrants from the Philippines have settled in Los Angeles and San Diego counties of California state. The second state they live is Honolulu County in Hawaii. And, only some live in other US states such as New York, New Jersey, Illinois, and Texas. When you come to America, if you have a Bachelor degree in the Philippines, then I recommend you go back to school to get a BS degree. After graduating with a BS degree, you can get a good job and your income may be doubled or even tripled compared to no-BS-degree job. For example, you can get a job that pays you 30 thousands pesos a month. With a BS degree, you can get a job that pays you 90 thousands pesos a month.

Filipino woman

Filipino woman

–I heard that Filipino men outnumber women in America, so Filipino women have a lot of rights, right Tony?
Tony: That’s right. On one statistic I read, there is about 2 millions of Filipinos who live in the US. So, there are not many single Filipinas available. Thousands of Pinoy go back home to get married with a local woman in the Philippines and sponsor her to America to live. Because of this, most Filipinas in American set high standards on a man they get married with. They are independent, confident and strong. When looking for a boyfriend or husband, they set high standards. Yes, Filipina girls have a lot of rights in America. So do all American women.

–I heard some people said that men in the US are very good in housework, they work hard, help their spouse all errands like cleaning the house, wash the dish, take care of children, is it right?
Tony: Absolutely right. Men in the US are very responsible. Beside the main job, they can do any errand of the house. As you know that women in America do work to pay the pills at home too, so they have to share errands at home. I think American men are excellent husband models.

–Woh really? As you know, men in the Philippines are boring you know? They always go drink with friends after work. And, the wife don’t dare to say any thing. If they do, they will get hit.
Tony: I heard about domestic violence in the Philippines. In the US, it is different. After work, most men drive straight home. Even if he calls a friend to go out after work, nobody is available to go with him. They have to go home to take care of errands at home. However, I think there are some men in the Philippines are good too.

–Yes. It’s hard to find a good man in the Philippines. Is it easy to find a husband in the US?
Tony: There are thousands of Filipinas get married with American men and immigrate to the US every year. On the last decade, it was easy. But at this time, it is not easy because some men and women don’t believe from each other anymore. There are some American men who are afraid that their wife coming here and leaving them. There are some Filipinas who just want a US Visa when they get married with American man. So, I think if you want to find a good man in America, then you need to give him trust. It’s not too hard to find a good man.

–OK. Why do American men find women in the Philippines? Why can’t they find a wife in the US?
Tony: Women in the US set high standards who choosing a husband so it’s hard. Some men who have bad experience with their ex-wife so they don’t have confidence with American women. They try Asian women instead. Also, there are some men who are interested in young woman so they have to go find her in the Philippines. For instance, a 50-year-old man who like to get married with a 25-year-old woman, and there is no way he can get that young woman in the US, unless he is a millionaire, then he must go to the Philippines to find her.

–How’s weather in America? I prefer to live in cold area so my skin is whiter and prettier.
Tony: It depends on what state you live in. The weather in California is so beautiful, not hot nor humid, not very cold too. Of course when you live in America for some time, you will look prettier and sexier.

–Is it easy to get a driver license in America. Can we take a test by Tagalog? I heard that Filipinas also drive a car right? Is it easy to drive in the US.
Tony: In America, most of people can drive a car. There are some states that allow you to take a test by Tagalog. Most roads are huge and every car must be going in its own lane so it is easy to drive in the US. The car price is not expensive in here. If you work for a few months, then you can afford to buy a used car.

–How do I figure out if a man is serious or playing around with women? I have seen some men lying and not serious?
Tony: Of course, I know that. You have to use your own sixth sense to figure it out. I think it is easy to regconize whether he is serious or not. For instance, when you know a man online, he asks you to chat on Skype, he asks you to show him your body in the first chat, then you can conclude that he just want to play around. That’s simple. I think a good man for you is the man who talk with you every day, who share with you all joys and happiness, take good care of you when you are sick, and love you from the bottom of his heart. Finally, I think a good man is the one who love your own personality, and always make you feel you are the happiness woman on the earth.

–Thank you very much. You share many experience with me about life in the US. Thanks.
Tony: I thank you too for speaking with me today. Your questions are excellent. I think a lot of Filiinas back home don’t quite understand about life in the US so I hope my answers also help them about that too. Thanks very much.

–Oh, Tony, when you go back to the Philipines, I will volunteer to be your tour guide? It’s free for you okie, Po Tony.
Tony: Thank you so much for that. I will remember that. I wish you keep this young and pretty look forever. I hope you find a good man in the near future. Good luck and good bye.

Asian Men and White Women: Why Don’t You Stand a Chance?

Asian American men are pursuing to get a date from White women but they can’t stand a chance. Pay attention! You rarely succeed in getting a white girl. It is just too hard for you. You can try but the successful rate is limited. Asian men are the disadvantage in dating or marrying a white lady so resign it and give it up.

Asian man White woman

Asian man White woman

Many white ladies are not interested in dating Asian guys because of several reasons. They said that you guys are whining and complaining all the time. You are not social and afraid of change. And, others.

As you know that most white women do not like men who whine or complain all the time. When it comes to conclusion, let it be it, accept the way it is, stop complaining.

Most of Asian people prefer to online Asian dating services to find their own race. However, there are some Asians open to White ladies.


Have you used the social circle on Google Plus? This is exactly what a white girl wants. You will have more friends and socialize with others. You have to hang out with American, white or black, friends, don’t stick with only Asian folks. You must be social with white friends. Talk and share with non-Asian friends. She does not want you to hang out with Asian people only. Don’t take her to eat “Chinese food” or “Japanese Sushi” every time you go out. Take her to some expensive American restaurants, like Steak Houses, etc.

You don’t have to be a white man but try to adapt to American culture. White girls love Asian culture too. However, they want you to be Americanized as well. You have to change to get acquainted with American lifestyle.

How to get attracted in a White girl

Are you really interested in dating a white woman? We all do but you should not think too much. Stay in your boundary. You will end up with no result. I recommend that you go out there making friends with white guys, go out with them, learn from them, how they live, eat and act. Then, go to find a white girlfriend.

When I was in college, getting a white girl on bed is easy. However, dating her and maintain a good relationship with her is a different story. I recalled helping out a class mate on a math class a few times, she agreed to go to a motel with me. I can have sex with a white girl at ease but dating her is hard. She never said “I love you” while we were doing sex. Anyway, I am telling you, it is hard, guys.

However, if you are famous and rich, then yes, you can have a chance. You’re not Cung Le so it is difficult to marry a white lady. You’re not one of the popular MMA in UFC. You’re not a movie star. So, don’t dream on it guys.

Stereotypes between Asian people and white people are very different. And, Asian guys don’t have confidence, weak face, small body, small size “tool”, etc. Oh, man, many disadvantages are there for Asian men. How could you stand a chance to date a white girl?

Singaporean man and Filipina lady

Singaporean man and Filipina lady

How about Asian women & White men?

Most of American men judged Asian ladies are “Yellow Fever”. Do you know why this term is being used by many guys who are interested in Asian girls? You can answer this by yourself, can’t you? When a marriage is happened between a Asian woman and American man in US, relatives and friends of the bride’s side impressed. I don’t know why but that’s true. I think it is because they think the bride is smart that she wins his heart. However, there are some rumors about such Asian girls American guys marriages. I heard that some people admitted that most American men got married with not-beautiful Asian women. In other words, pretty Asian ladies don’t date American men, only ugly ones do.

Some of American friends told me that Asian women are submissive. You know what? I don’t like this phrase from these friends. I am Asian man so I don’t like they said our ladies are submissive because it is like a slap on my face when I heard that. What they mean is like you know, American men are “cavemen” who can rule over Asian girlfriends or wives. Shit, it is a slap on my face, you know? I hate that racist sentence. They think we still live in the 19th century. Come on, man, we live in the 21th century in America, the most country that has gender freedom. I am tired to explain more about this.

Smart Asian Women Should Find Single Men In The West To Marry

The pursuit of a better life materially, environment and bright future for themselves and their children is the main reason that millions of Asian single women have been searching for their husband overseas. They are from the Philippines, China, Vietnam, India, Pakistan, Cambodia, Thailand, Indonesia, Taiwan, and so on.

Singaporean man and Filipina lady

There are tens of thousands Asian women search for Asian men and native men in developed countries like the US, Australia and Canada each year for marriage. Among these, about 50 percent Asian brides found their husbands in the West through the website of online dating because they do not have relatives in places where they settled for marriage. The rest of foreign brides who came to these nations is through the introduction from a relative, sibling, uncle, aunt, uncle, and friends.

The main reason that single women in Asia is attracted to men in the West because of material things, clean and fresh air and food, great education system, gender freedom and so on. Some of these ladies are rich and they want to do business in these countries where they can’t do in their own country because of unsecured rules. Many Asian millionaires try to flock to these Western nations to safely keep their money and invest it. There are many reasons that Asian ladies want to come to these countries.

Filipino (Philippines) and India or Middle Eastern immigrants often say to each other when they live in the United States are:

1. Immigrants often HATE America in the first year
2. Immigrants do not HATE America when they lived in one year
3. Immigrants
LOVE America when they live more than 3 years

Exactly. Immigrants often feel very lonely and sad when they first arrived here the first year because of the weather, the environment, and the crestfallen and others. They did not know much English so they just stay home and feel the loneliness. Plus the homesick with the memories of their homeland, friends, relatives will make 1st-year immigrants feel more lonely and tedious. By the 2nd year, they become familiar and in the 3rd year, they can stabilize and get used to life at this place.

There are Asian girls even go one further step, when choosing a foreign husband. If you like to get married with Western men, you should be careful because there are so many handsome guys on the website to cheat innocent women. Be careful about what type of men you want to get acquainted with from Asian online dating services. If they ask for money or business partnerships, received gifts, etc, then you should stay away. Remember, no one gives you free things ever. Usually Asian divorced, widowed women with children, the opportunity to marry Western men is easier because foreigners usually accept them at ease. Asian men in the West are more careful in choosing the life partner. Most of Asian guys overseas prefer to marry young and beautiful women who live in Asia.

Poor Asian women usually accept a man for marriage because all they want is a better life and a place where they can build up a future. Wealthy Asian ladies are pickier than poor ladies in choosing the man for life. There are opportunities in these Western countries where international women can have. They can make more money than their home town. For example, blue color job workers in the US can earn $1,500 to $3,000 a month. Professional workers can earn from $5,000 to $10,000 a month. However, you have to pay tax in the United States of America, Canada, Australia and so on.

Filipino lady in America

Another reason that smart Asian women should marry men in the West is the gender freedom. Women are treated fairly with more respects and manner. Because of the clean and fresh air, women look younger and prettier when they come here. Their husbands can share housework such as cleaning, washing dishes, cooking, laundry, child care, baby diapering, bathing children, etc.

If you are happy to live in your home country, then it is great and I suggest you stay there. If you are a rich Asian woman who want to come to the West to do business, then you should do so. If you’re an Asian lady who lives in poor condition, then you should find a single man in the West. Good luck and God bless you!

Filipino Single Women Seeking Men For Dating & Marriage

There are many Filipino single women seeking men for love and romance, dating and marriage. They are mature women of over 25+ years old who are either single, widowed or divorced. Many of them divorced their husbands due to domestic violence. In the Philippines, most men don’t look for these mature Filipina ladies who have kids but look for single young women for marriage. As a result, there are millions of “left behind” women looking for men who live in the West. Older foreign men don’t care about the past of a woman so they come to the Philippines to marry these Filipinas. These Western single men usually choose a Filipino woman from the internet dating site like or others, then meet her on the Webcam chatting system (Skype, Yahoo Messenger, etc) and come to the Philippines to marry her.

Filipino woman seeking men

Filipino woman seeking men (Youtube image)

There are mutual benefits between and foreign man and Filipino woman. He can marry a young Filipina wife (usually 10-20 years younger). She can marry a Western husband whom can help her to come to the West and make a better life. The internet has saved time and money for people to find a relationship online. The Filipino dating sites or general online dating services can be the most convenient way to meet other singles. Most of these dating websites are English language and all Filipino ladies speak and write English very well so they can communicate effectively.

Foreign men looking for Filipino women for marriage

Let’s talk about some beautiful traits of Filipino women that attract many Western single men. Filipina ladies have excellent traits that can help their men to develop a meaningful relationship. They consider marriage as lifetime commitment so they take it seriously, except domestic violence, they have to run away from you. They like to find a man who is caring, thoughtful, honest, romantic and responsible. A Filipino lady keeps her traditional traits like being the best housewife and submissive. Their voice is sweet just like Spanish women in speaking English. They have the best female traits in the world.

Maybe the most important thing that single men in the West seeking Filipino women is the stunning beauty. They are feminine, submissive and sexy, generous and caring. She won’t disappoint you in the bedroom. She will be your “new bride” every single night by the way she dresses and wear perfume. She cooks you daily delicious meals. She takes care of your kids. She treats you well and let you feel like “the man” of the family. In the Philippines most women are raised to respect marriage and consider it as lifetime commitment so there is no divorce. You don’t worry about she turns you down when you run into financial issues. She is there for you to help you solve any problem of the family. She is very supportive and caring.

Filipino lady in America

Filipino lady in America

Myths and Facts about Filipino women

If you are still unclear about Filipino women, then you should read these myths and facts about them. You are thinking about marrying a Filipina lady, it is better to understand about her culture.

It is true that education has been a great importance for most of Filipino women. Most of them are well educated. Only poor countryside girls are not well educated because their parents can’t support them. There are poor and rich Filipinas. The poor girls live in small cities that are far away from big cities. The rich Filipinas are very beautiful and well educated, who are very selective in choosing a husband.

It is the fact that Filipino women are religious because up to 85% are Roman Catholic. They dream of a wedding in a Church. So, they are very honest as what Christians stated in the Bible.

It is a myth that people said all Filipino women are submissive and obedient. I said above that most of them are but not all. However, Filipina girls don’t like to engage in a loud quarrel because they are patient and understanding. They don’t try to win the argument with their husbands. They speak slowly and politely with a gentle voice.

It is the fact that most Filipino girls thinks money as the secondary, not priority of a happy marriage. It doesn’t matter you have financial issues later on in life, she won’t leave you because of that.

Filipino never divorce their husbands — myth. Even though they are raised with high values about honestly and fidelity, they will divorce their husbands if there is domestic violence and cheating. Filipino ladies are very patient who can stand by their husbands during hard times but they can’t be patient if you cheat on them.

It is true that Filipino women are excellent house keepers. They are gorgeous mothers for your kids. They will do whatever to have a warm and loving home to make you happy. She won’t yell at home. I don’t want to mention more about this since I listed above.

Filipino women seeking foreign men for marriage

Women outnumber men in the Philippines. However, it is not very much different in fender in this country. The most important fact that Filipino women are looking for single men overseas is the stable, loving, happy, secured and long lasting relationship.

Why do Singaporean Men Seek Philippine Girls in Singapore for Marriage?

Singaporean men seeking Philippine girls in Singapore for marriage has been a phenomenon these days. There are thousands of cross cultural marriages between Filipino girls and Singapore men every year. They gather at the Lucky plaza and go to online dating sites to find each other. The question is why are they attracted to each other that much?

Singaporean man and Filipina lady

Singaporean man and Filipina lady

If you think that Singaporean girls are similar to other Asian women, then you’re wrong. Singapore women are very independent just like American or Canadian women. This is one of the reasons Western guys like Singaporean women a lot. However, Singaporean men think that such independent women in Singapore are hard-headed and stubborn to deal with when getting married. They’d rather marry foreign women like Filipinas who are simple and easy.

Another main reason is that most Singaporean women are not interested in getting married in the last few years. They want to pursue their dream in getting successful in their careers so they don’t like to be bothered by family and kids. After getting a Bachelor and Master degree, they are about 28 years old. They try to work hard and get promoted. After a few years, most of them are over 30 years old. At this time, most of them don’t like to get married anymore. As a result, there are many unmarried women in Singapore. Many of them don’t have time to go out to find that special someone. That’s why the government encourages single women in Singapore use internet dating sites or social bookmarking sites like Facebook or Twitter to find friends and life partners online.

Every year, there are hundreds of thousands of Philippine girls who come to work in Singapore. They work in hospitals or other healthcare departments around this island. They also work in banks, shopping malls and IT departments. Also, there are up to one million of Filipino women who visit the Singapore island every year. So, to find a Filipina for dating is a piece of cake. Many single men in Singapore prefer the way to find Filipino single women through an Asian dating site.

Beautiful Asian girls

Beautiful Filipino girls

As mentioned above, most Filipina girls are very sociable, simple and easy. If you are an outdoor man, then you can go to these places to meet these Filipino tourists or workers to get acquainted with. If you are an indoor person, then you can go to the online Singaporean dating site to find her. To look for a Philippine girlfriend or wife, you need to be patient. Filipino women are more traditional than Singaporean women in terms of dating, relationship and marriage. Most of them are looking for a relationship that step up to marriage. They are not looking for one-night stand.

Anyway, Singaporean girls are too independent and not interested into marriage anymore so single men in Singapore have to find Filipinas for marriage. Also, Singapore girls set high standards in selecting a best man for life so it is hard for Singaporean men to meet that standards. As you have seen there are many Singapore women dating Caucasians these days because of their high standards. I mean, Singaporean women prefer men who are tall and handsome, who have good job and high pay, so only Caucasians meet these standards. In fact, if you are Caucasian, then you’ll get higher pay than local Singaporean in this island.

Certainly, most Singaporean men can’t meet these high standards from Singaporean women and some of them want to marry a simple and less hardheaded wife, Filipina girl is the best choice.

How To Find Asian American Singles & Personals In The US

Asian Americans are the immigrants or their descendants from nations in the Far East, Southeast Asia and the Indian subcontinent. Asian American is about 5 percent of the whole US population. The crowded Asian people in the US are Chinese, Filipino, Indian, Vietnamese, Korean, Japanese, and others. Since there are only 5% of the total US population, they have an issue of finding their life partner. Some of them marry with people from other race such White, Black, and Hispanic. Some of them find their life partners from their hometown by using the internet dating sites. On this article, I like to point out how the Asian dating sites can help their singletons to find their potential significant half.

Asian American singles

Asian American singles

Asian American men outnumber women in the United States. This is true. In the last few decades, there were thousands of Asian men who escaped their countries to immigrate to the US by boat, which generated the un-balanced rate between women and men. They came to America then sponsored their parents and siblings to this country as well, which created the big population of Asian American as we have now. However, the ratio for Asian American women is still less than men. So many Asian American men must choose the online dating sites to find their other half in their home country because they can’t find one in America. Of course, some of them prefer to marry young traditional Asian girls.

Why do you use Asian online dating sites to find that special someone?

It is easy, convenient and effective.

Unless you have friends or relatives hook you up, online dating sites are the most easy and effective way to find your special one. Most Asian American people have busy schedules as they live in fast-paced lifestyle from this country. They don’t have time to go out and find a date. They keep working hard to pay the bills. So they are busy most of the time.

As you live in the US, where do you go to find a date? You just go to a bar or club to find a date. However, most of these dates turn out one or two nights. The clubbers want to have fun or short-term dates. You want to find a relationship or marriage. This is the wrong place to go there to find a life mate. You can go to parties and ask your friends hook you up. This is fine. But it is not easy and simple because most Asian American girls set high standards on their life partners. You don’t have a chance.

Asian American dating sites are the best way to join and meet that special one. However, please pay attention to the pictures they post on their profiles. Don’t believe them completely. I have a friend who set up a face to face meet at a restaurant with a guy she met online. She loved his profile picture because he looks so cool. She came to the restaurant and sat on a table waiting for him, he showed up in front of her, she didn’t recognize him at all. He was like 15 years older than him in the picture.

This is one of the examples of many Asian women in America confront with. What I advise you is to chat with him via Skype or Messenger webcam before you meet face to face. Don’t rush into meeting him even you have been single and lonely for a long time. Dating online takes time to be successful.

Before you contact the guy or girl online, read over their personal ads in detailed to learn about the likes, dislikes, interests, hobby, education, or other general background to match with you. Online dating is effective if you know how to use it effectively. If you are one of these single Asian American men dating a girl oversea, then you should chat with her via webcam. You need to talk to her via voice call or video chat. Keep chatting and talking until you are comfortable to meet her over there.

Most of single Asian women seeking men online seems to attract most of guys online, based on his cool photos. You need to read his profile before you decide to like him or not.

Don’t wait any longer but take action to sign up a profile here and meet that special someone today.

Asian Men In The West & The Hardness About Dating Situation

Asian men in the west do feel the hardness about seeking a dream girl for dating, unless they are tall and high-educated. Most of them just look for the same race, only some open to White, Hispanic or Black women. They are small guys compared to Caucasian or Black men. They are about 5’2 to 5’9 in height, which is too short. Unless they go to college, earn a BS degree, get a good job, they have a hard time to find an Asian girlfriend or wife. There are not many Asian girls in the West so guys can’t find them at ease. Most of Asian women set high standards on the man they are looking for. He must have at least a BS degree, good job and income to date or marry an Asian girl. I am using “girls”, “women” and “females” on this article respectively.

Asian man is rejected by a woman

Asian man is rejected by a woman

Many Asian men must go back to their home towns to marry girls and sponsor them back to the West. They can’t find a wife here because of their low income and poor living condition. They are too short so they can’t date a Caucasian. Most white girls are not attracted to Asian guys because of size. However, some Caucasians do prefer to date Japanese and Korean guys. They think that these guys are very polite and working hard. Japanese men have slightly slanting eyes which attract some white women. They are not that small body size compared to Vietnamese, Thai, and Chinese guys.

When Asia-born women migrated to the West, most of them are in fashion. They look so beautiful and attractive because of their beautiful skin, appealing eyes and sexy clothes which make many Western guys attracted to. In Asia, they are rated as 4/10, when they come to the West for a few years, they are 7/10. No joking about that. I am an Asian so I know how beautiful they are. When they first came to the West, they looked like country-side girls, after a few years, they are like city girls. If you go to the Asian markets in San Francisco or New York City, then you know how beautiful they are. So, they set high standards on what type of men they are seeking for in terms of dating and marriage.

When you go to dating site, there are thousands of Asian women signed up online to find men who are engineers, doctors, or lawyers. They are just girls who are Asian, working as Nail Technicians, food servers, non-technical workers, but they set high standards in an ideal man they want to date and marry. A lot of men think that these ladies are narrow-minded who are far overshooting their standards. They can’t find such a man in real life so they must go to online dating sites to find him. In fact, many Asian women have found such high-class men through these internet dating sites. As a result, Asian guys have hard time to find a wife if they don’t have a Bachelor or Master degree.

Asian women

Asian women

Asian women who live in Australia, Canada or America have learned the Western culture where gender freedom is applied strictly. They changed completely when they came to the West, especially Asian women in Vietnam, Thailand, China or the Philippines. Most of these single Asia-born ladies set high standards on how to choose a husband. Those who married set high standards on how their husbands treat them. They need to be treated with respects. Some of them divorced their husbands one they immigrated here. So there are pros and cons about gender freedom because the woman now has more power than when they live in Asia.

In conclusion, if you’re Asia-born men who migrated to the West or you were born here, then you will have a hard time to find a date. I suggest that you try hard to study, get a good degree, earn great income, then you will be fine to find an Asian girl in the West. Good luck and have a great day!

Why are Chinese American Men Too Popular in the US & China?

Chinese American men are too popular in the US because they are inherited the goodies from famous movie Asian stars such as Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, Jet Li, Donnie Jen and so on. If you are an Asian man who talks with Caucasians, then they will ask you “Are you Chinese” but not “Are you Thai or Are you Japanese?”. Chinese men are popular in America, really. They are successful and high educated. Many of them married white girls as well. They have learned the Americanized culture so they act just like native Americans, plus their rooted cultural values, which make them the ideal gentlemen for any girl.

Chinese man in Shanghai China

Chinese man in Shanghai China

I don’t want to go in detailed about the outlook but focus on the characteristic and traits. I don’t say Chinese men are handsome because their faces look flat with low noses and eye sockets. Many Western women prefer men to have chest hair but Chinese guys don’t. Chinese men are not very gentle and humorous as Western men because they control which make them the “bossy” of the house. However, their traits are perfect for any woman who is being submissive. Most Chinese American guys can take good care of their wives, no doubt about that.

China-born men who migrated to the US when they were over 18 years old are still applying the Chinese family rules over their wives. Most of Chinese men who were born in America are excellent in terms of being a gentleman because they always apply “Ladies first” rule. Ladies love gentlemen, you know?

If you travel to China, take a bus, you seldom see a Chinese man give up his seat for a pregnant woman. This is not nice at all. It is about the cultural values from China, where boys are valued as more important than girls. I personally think that men in China have many shortcomings while Chinese American men have so much goodies. Domestic violence happens between couples every single day in China. In America, you don’t see such domestic violence between Chinese  husbands and wives. You rarely see that.

Chinese man in the US

Chinese man in the US

In terms of marriage, most Chinese men prefer to have traditional wife who is submissive. However, when they live in the US, they are not traditional anymore because they have to work hard to pay the bills. They can’t stay home and live with their husband’s income. That doesn’t work anymore. Every single Chinese woman must work to help her husband raise the family. She can’t be submissive like traditional Chinese women. Ah, this is one of the reasons many Chinese American go back to China to marry real traditional girls and bring them to the US every year.

Every man has different concepts about love, relationship and marriage. Some of them don’t like to marry a woman who keep spying on them all the time, check their phone records every day, check who they call every single time, and so on. But there are some Chinese men prefer to marry a traditional girl who is submissive and let them take lead of the family. It doesn’t matter what they say, they don’t want the wife to argue but accept it as is.

It doesn’t matter where you view the Chinese men, they have the same goodies as:

1. They want serious relationship. If you are a White girl, you think about why they want a relationship too fast. You want to enjoy the dating process in a more relaxed way. However, Chinese men want to find a date that could lead to a relationship as fast as it can.

2. He is jealous. If you are too friendly with other male friends, then he is jealous. However, I think this is a good thing because it is proven he loves you to the bottom of his heart.

3. Equality doesn’t apply. A Chinese man can take care of you and the kids as long as he can. If you try to be equal in sharing the home bills, then you may upset him. He can take care of that by himself.

Generally speaking, Chinese American men are too popular in the US and China because they have learned both great cultural values to make them the perfect gentlemen for girls. Also, they can make good money in the US so they can spend a lot when they go back to China. Another thing is that Chinese American guys can marry Chinese local girls and sponsor them to America. I have seen many rich single Chinese women want to leave China to migrate to the US. They are daughters of rich families, high-educated parents, high-level officials, and business people. So, Chinese American men are the great bridge who can bring these rich women in China to America legally.

Why Do Asian Singles Need To Use The Internet Dating Sites To Find Love & Romance?

Nowadays there are more and more Asian singles using the internet dating sites to find their significant life partner. There is no other way around to find that special someone if they are in the age range from 30 years old and up. Going to a bar or club doesn’t give them a long time partner, only youngsters gather at these places to find one or two-nigh dates. In fact, the most important reason is that Asian people postpone getting married until 30 which result many still singleton and get it harder to find a relationship.

Asian man is rejected by a woman

Asian man is rejected by a woman

What’s happening in Asia in this modern Era?

In the East, South-East and South Asia, Asian women and men don’t rush into marriage anymore. Unlike 25 years ago, single girls and guys in Asia who are over 18 years old, rushing into getting married because they don’t want to be “left over”. You hardly see a 26-year-old woman or 28-year-old man who is still single. They all want to settle down before 25 years old for girls and 27 years old for guys. On the 21th century, marriage age have risen in Asia’s regions include Japan, South Korea, Hong Kong, Taiwan, where women want to get married at around 29 years old and for men, at 31 years old.

Generally speaking, about two-fifth of Asian women are not marrying at all. Un-married Asian singles are striking in Bangkok, Thailand, Tokyo, Japan, Singapore, and South Korea. They enjoy being single. They work hard so they don’t have time to go out for a date. Sometimes they go to the internet dating services to find a date and enjoys it. They don’t care whether or not this date turns into a relationship or marriage. They don’t worry about that. Marriage is not the utmost important thing in their life but career is. They pay attention to their career, how to get promoted and raised in salary.

Because of traditional custom in Asia, most women have tough time of being both married and employed at the same time. They have to take care of their husband and kids. Some of them must care of their ageing parents-in-laws. That’s too much work for them which they can’t deal with. Many Asian women must give up work to look after kids after marriage. When their kids grow up, they can get back to work. There are many errands to take care of in a family so they can’t take care of them when working full time for 40 hours a week, 20 hours housework, 20 hours for kids and husbands and so on. That’s why many Asian women in Japan and Singapore are not interested in getting married.

Thai single women

Thai single women

Asian singles and the online dating sites

There are many online dating chat sites exists that can help these Asian personals meet each other. It does not matter they are busy with their daily work, they can use these websites to find love and romance. If you are one of these single Asian men and women then you should start taking action to sign up a personal ad to find that special someone. Being single is not fun. You have a good job, high salary but you don’t have a family, which is the utmost important thing in life. Don’t think that being married takes all of your time. You have more fun housework with your kids and your spouse. Enjoy it.

You need to know where you were born. You have parents. They are great. They were busy by the time you were born too. However, they took a good care of you. You are successful now. You need to do the same thing as your parents did. No marriage no babies. This is the sentence you should remember. You are busy now and you don’t have time to go out in search for a date. That’s fine. You can register a profile at an Asian dating site like Asian date net or other regular dating sites. There are many of Asian singles waiting online to meet you. There are many Asian match making services or dating online websites that can help you find your life mate. So, please don’t give excuses about your busy life, that you don’t have time to find a date.

The country needs the next generations. The government needs their citizens to get married and have babies to continue working and supporting the nation. You are successful now because you are a citizen of this country so you have to pay back what you owe from where you were born, raised and lived, by acting normally as your parents did, get married and have baby. Thank you for your support!

Watch Out Online Dating Scams: For Both Asian Women & Western Men

Find a date online? Too good and too convenient. Just sit at a place where you can search and expose to a lot of people to get acquainted. Can I find a girlfriend or boyfriend, gay, les or bisexual, older or younger, living near or any other country. Advantages too? But besides that, you need vigilant and be careful, because you can fall on the dating scammer. It doesn’t matter whether you are a Asian woman, man or Western man, there are good and bad people out there. Be precautious is the best policy when you look for love, romance, relationship and marriage online.

Internet dating scams

Internet dating scams

There are some ways that internet scammers use to scam someone’s money. Again, those people are everywhere, they are fake who pretend to be a single man or woman from South Africa, Nigeria, Senegal, UK, USA, Canada, Poland, Australia, France, German, Italy, China, Japan, South Korea, Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia, Singapore, Indonesia, Malaysia, India, Pakistan, the Philippines and others. They use proxy websites to sign up a profile with attractive pictures. They use proxy sites to exchange emails back and forth with you so you don’t know exactly where they are originally from.

I think if you go online to find a mate for you, do not believe in all the things for sale, gifts, or anything that relate to money. If anyone get acquainted with you that say about the item that you earn profits, or tell you to pay a fee to receive large gifts, as well as tell you sob stories about death of family members, poverty, shortage of money, travel expense, need help, then you should stop and notify the administrator or network administrator of that dating website know about it. These are online dating scams.



You must be aware of such people. Asian prostitutes and call girls advertise on dating sites to find male customers like, “a single girl, 22 years old, 165cm tall, sexy body, might serve him in Manila, whenever, contact and address.” Some young men seeking old women advertise their ads like “a strong young man, 1.75 meter tall, swarthy, can satisfy any old and lonely woman, living in the Philippines”. However, there are someone who acts like normal Asian singles and personals, after chatting with them a few times, you know exactly about them.


Have you encountered many phony intellectuals. They introduced themselves on their profiles as a doctor, an engineer, and speak clearly about the companies they work. But after some time, they you discovered they are lumpen intellectuals. Their real identity was finally disclosed. They can’t tell lies all the time.


This is the way that foreigners used to scam unsuspecting people. They also go online and find you, email back and forth with each other, and how they talk about the phone number to make a deep emotional, gain your trust. Finally, they send a gift for you through a foreign company, and ask you to pay the shipping cost or tax. There are many Asian men and women who were trapped from these luxury gifts and felt for it. Don’t believe about such expensive gifts.


There are many people who act as Asian and Western regular singles. When they gain your trust, they will talk about the inherit fortune from their parents, grandparents, or great grandparents. They will agree to share with you the big money from their fortune. Then, they ask you to pay for the shipping fee or tax to transfer the money into your bank account. This is scam.

Here is the way to know about the Internet dating scams or online money scammers:

  • They usually send you the long letter with words from polite literature. You should copy one paragraph and then search on Google, you will know immediately whether or not they are scams.
  • They send you a very beautiful picture or cool pictures, but never let you see their webcam.
  • Remember to pay attention to the time in where they live. For example, they say they live in the United States, in California, then the time zone of the Philippines is different about 9 hours. Notice about when they say morning or evening is correct.
  • They often say sympathetically to you for sympathy. If you say you are divorced or a widow, they also say the same. They often speak words of love and promise to sponsor you to the West as early as possible.
  • If you receive their letters from junk mail (spam) inbox, it would mean that they were sent to many people.
  • Every day you receive a new message, then you do not receive new mail in one week, you miss the emails, you’ve been waiting for it By 8th day, they sent a letter to you and say just come back from travel and bought a gift for you, asked you to pay for shipping fee to receive it.
  • Asked you to see them at the place in the Philippines, they send you an email saying that they can’t make it.

It does not matter what site you sign up with, an Asian dating service like Asiandatenet or other regular dating sites, you will once in a while deal with internet scams. The above tips are only some you should pay attention to. There are some other scripts that online dating scammers use. If you can post some other tips, then I’ll post them on this posts so that our honest people can learn from and stay away from these internet money scams. Again, don’t cooperate with them, FIGHT THEM.