There are many single Chinese women in China (between 30 to 50 years old) while most of Chinese American women are married. This is the difference about marriage market in China and in the US. In China’s culture, women prefer to marry men who are higher educated than themselves while men prefer to marry women who are lower educated. However, there are many leftover Chinese ladies in China who can’t find a man for themselves. In America, most of Chinese women from 25 and older are married and have children. What’s going on?
Misogyny is one of the reasons that Chinese men can’t find a woman, which result in many unmarried women in China. I have to say thanks to the sex-selective abortion, men outnumber women in this country. Another reason is that most women prefer to marry men in perfection or they stay singleton. They like to marry a man who has a home, good job and secured financial status. Many young Chinese women prefer to marry matured and divorced men who are rich so they are perfectly taken care of. However, buying a house in China is hard to low-class men which make many Chinese poor men have to find a foreign bride in Vietnam and etc.
Chinese American women or girls are treated with more respect because they live in the US. Most Chinese American men learned and applied the best American culture in treating and respecting the woman. I have to conclude that Chinese men in the US are much better than men in China. I mean, they work hard, go home after work, take care of their kids. On the other hand, many men in China go out with friends to drink after work, until drunk, get home, sleep. So, Chinese American guys are more responsible than Chinese men in China. That’s why Chinese American women are lucky to marry a good man out of many good Chinese men in the US. There is no way they can say bad things about Chinese men in America. So, most of Chinese women in America are married and happy.
Upper class of women in China have hard time to find a husband because they are more careful. They are educated and rich so they must find a man who is better than them. It is not easy to find such a man who meet their high set of standards. Time is getting by. They are getting 30s and being leftover. The issue in Chinese culture is that most men don’t marry old women who are over 30 years old. If you are thirty-something woman, then you have a hard time to be selected by men, unless you accept a lower-class man. In America, age is just a number. If you are 35 years old, then you can find a 39-year-old man. In other words, Chinese American men don’t care about that they must marry young women. They usually find a woman who is less than them a few years old.
In China, most women turn 28 usually enter a time of crisis. They feel fear and dread. They are fearful that they don’t have a chance for marriage after 28. They do whatever to find a man before this age. They worry about that. The marriage market is different from China and America. In the Western countries like Canada, Australia and the US, Chinese women study and work, earn a degree, then marry. They don’t care about whether they pass 28 or not. They care about what their career is after graduation. They know they will find a good man. Their parents fear and enter a time of crisis if their daughters are over 28 and unmarried.
Generally speaking, there are many unmarried women in China. They are called the leftover women. They are over 28 years old. They are educated and rich. Nowadays, there are some online Chinese dating networks that help these single women in China to find a man who is matched with their standards. These dating sites in China help the leftover women to find either men in China or Chinese American singles who live in the US.
Anyway, we are all Chinese women. If you live in China, then your marriage status is different from Chinese women in the US. The culture is different between two countries so the one’s behavior is different in terms of dating, relationship and marriage.