If you ask a Chinese woman about the ideal husband she wants to marry, then the answer will be the middle-aged man who is around 40 years old, successful in life, as well as who have a car and a house. A divorced Chinese man is the more preferable husband than a single man toward women in China in terms of choosing the best husband. Most of old men have male traits that young men don’t have. However, there are many unmarried ladies in this country because of these picky choice. They are “lelftover” or shang nu women who are over 28 years old and unmarried.
It is hard to find such a man who is available in China. If they are 40 and successful, then most of them are married. However, they usually have love affairs with other young women. This is another issue that single ladies are afraid of. Since Chinese girls set high standards on seeking a husband, most of them are still not married. So they have to sign up their personal ads through online dating services in China to find such a good husband. They’d rather stay single but don’t want to marry a “bad” man. From these Chinese dating sites, they are in hope to find a middle-aged man who owns a house and have a car so they are good taken care of.
Again, it is not easy to find such men in China. Most of single ladies also look for Chinese men who live in the West. This is an easier way. Nowadays, there are many single old Chinese American, Australian, Canadian men who are single and looking for a wife back home. I have to define Chinese men who live in USA, Australia, Canada, France and others so you can understand more about them. They are immigrants along with their descendants from Mainland China, Hong Kong, Macau, Taiwan, and others. Most of these guys have a hard time to find a young Chinese wife in the West so they are looking for in their hometown. This is the excellent choice for single young women back home because they are perfectly matched.
Chinese girls want to have security in life. They want to live with a man who can take care of them on safety about finance. In China, most single women are adviced to stay away from Phoenix men who discriminate and strictly choose the future wife. They are the guys who try hard in life for succeed in career so they don’t get married with less qualified than them. If a lady is not rich, then she won’t be qualified for the phoenix men.
Single girls in China have traditional thoughts about marriage. They think marriage as a lifetime commitment so divorce is shameful for the family. People have tie family relationship so they want to find a husband for life. That’s why they are looking for an old and success husbands. If you search for a Chinese single lady in China and drop her a message and you are the same or older than her 5 years old, then you won’t get a reply from her. She thinks that you are not matured enough for her. This is the reason that most young Chinese single women seeking a husband who is at least 10 years older than them.
Finally, I personally think that Chinese women have a hard time in choosing a marriage partner. There are many difficult standards they set about the husband that are getting married in the future. I suggest that single Chinese girls should use the internet dating sites to help them find such a man. Don’t just rely on introductions from relatives or friends, they must take action to find their dream husband. Age is getting older, you know?
So, old Chinese men are the ideal husbands for single, divorced or widow women in China because of their secured financial status and materials.
The old Chinese proberb, “the older is the better”, is always right. We love old men because they treat us better and love us more. Old men know how to take good care of us. I am a Chinese girl, 24 years old, but like to get married with a 40-year old man. I am not interested in young men in China because they just play games, drinking, smoking, no career…