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Why are Chinese American Men Too Popular in the US & China?

Apr25

Chinese American men are too popular in the US because they are inherited the goodies from famous movie Asian stars such as Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, Jet Li, Donnie Jen and so on. If you are an Asian man who talks with Caucasians, then they will ask you “Are you Chinese” but not “Are you Thai or Are you Japanese?”. Chinese men are popular in America, really. They are successful and high educated. Many of them married white girls as well. They have learned the Americanized culture so they act just like native Americans, plus their rooted cultural values, which make them the ideal gentlemen for any girl.

Chinese man in Shanghai China

Chinese man in Shanghai China

I don’t want to go in detailed about the outlook but focus on the characteristic and traits. I don’t say Chinese men are handsome because their faces look flat with low noses and eye sockets. Many Western women prefer men to have chest hair but Chinese guys don’t. Chinese men are not very gentle and humorous as Western men because they control which make them the “bossy” of the house. However, their traits are perfect for any woman who is being submissive. Most Chinese American guys can take good care of their wives, no doubt about that.

China-born men who migrated to the US when they were over 18 years old are still applying the Chinese family rules over their wives. Most of Chinese men who were born in America are excellent in terms of being a gentleman because they always apply “Ladies first” rule. Ladies love gentlemen, you know?

If you travel to China, take a bus, you seldom see a Chinese man give up his seat for a pregnant woman. This is not nice at all. It is about the cultural values from China, where boys are valued as more important than girls. I personally think that men in China have many shortcomings while Chinese American men have so much goodies. Domestic violence happens between couples every single day in China. In America, you don’t see such domestic violence between Chinese  husbands and wives. You rarely see that.

Chinese man in the US

Chinese man in the US

In terms of marriage, most Chinese men prefer to have traditional wife who is submissive. However, when they live in the US, they are not traditional anymore because they have to work hard to pay the bills. They can’t stay home and live with their husband’s income. That doesn’t work anymore. Every single Chinese woman must work to help her husband raise the family. She can’t be submissive like traditional Chinese women. Ah, this is one of the reasons many Chinese American go back to China to marry real traditional girls and bring them to the US every year.

Every man has different concepts about love, relationship and marriage. Some of them don’t like to marry a woman who keep spying on them all the time, check their phone records every day, check who they call every single time, and so on. But there are some Chinese men prefer to marry a traditional girl who is submissive and let them take lead of the family. It doesn’t matter what they say, they don’t want the wife to argue but accept it as is.

It doesn’t matter where you view the Chinese men, they have the same goodies as:

1. They want serious relationship. If you are a White girl, you think about why they want a relationship too fast. You want to enjoy the dating process in a more relaxed way. However, Chinese men want to find a date that could lead to a relationship as fast as it can.

2. He is jealous. If you are too friendly with other male friends, then he is jealous. However, I think this is a good thing because it is proven he loves you to the bottom of his heart.

3. Equality doesn’t apply. A Chinese man can take care of you and the kids as long as he can. If you try to be equal in sharing the home bills, then you may upset him. He can take care of that by himself.

Generally speaking, Chinese American men are too popular in the US and China because they have learned both great cultural values to make them the perfect gentlemen for girls. Also, they can make good money in the US so they can spend a lot when they go back to China. Another thing is that Chinese American guys can marry Chinese local girls and sponsor them to America. I have seen many rich single Chinese women want to leave China to migrate to the US. They are daughters of rich families, high-educated parents, high-level officials, and business people. So, Chinese American men are the great bridge who can bring these rich women in China to America legally.

Marriage Market Between Chinese Women From China and America

Mar21

There are many single Chinese women in China (between 30 to 50 years old) while most of Chinese American women are married. This is the difference about marriage market in China and in the US. In China’s culture, women prefer to marry men who are higher educated than themselves while men prefer to marry women who are lower educated. However, there are many leftover Chinese ladies in China who can’t find a man for themselves. In America, most of Chinese women from 25 and older are married and have children. What’s going on?

Chinese girl from China

Chinese girl from China

Misogyny is one of the reasons that Chinese men can’t find a woman, which result in many unmarried women in China. I have to say thanks to the sex-selective abortion, men outnumber women in this country. Another reason is that most women prefer to marry men in perfection or they stay singleton. They like to marry a man who has a home, good job and secured financial status. Many young Chinese women prefer to marry matured and divorced men who are rich so they are perfectly taken care of. However, buying a house in China is hard to low-class men which make many Chinese poor men have to find a foreign bride in Vietnam and etc.

Chinese American women or girls are treated with more respect because they live in the US. Most Chinese American men learned and applied the best American culture in treating and respecting the woman. I have to conclude that Chinese men in the US are much better than men in China. I mean, they work hard, go home after work, take care of their kids. On the other hand, many men in China go out with friends to drink after work, until drunk, get home, sleep. So, Chinese American guys are more responsible than Chinese men in China. That’s why Chinese American women are lucky to marry a good man out of many good Chinese men in the US. There is no way they can say bad things about Chinese men in America. So, most of Chinese women in America are married and happy.

Chinese girl from the US of America

Chinese girl from the US of America

Upper class of women in China have hard time to find a husband because they are more careful. They are educated and rich so they must find a man who is better than them. It is not easy to find such a man who meet their high set of standards. Time is getting by. They are getting 30s and being leftover. The issue in Chinese culture is that most men don’t marry old women who are over 30 years old. If you are thirty-something woman, then you have a hard time to be selected by men, unless you accept a lower-class man. In America, age is just a number. If you are 35 years old, then you can find a 39-year-old man. In other words, Chinese American men don’t care about that they must marry young women. They usually find a woman who is less than them a few years old.

In China, most women turn 28 usually enter a time of crisis. They feel fear and dread. They are fearful that they don’t have a chance for marriage after 28. They do whatever to find a man before this age. They worry about that. The marriage market is different from China and America. In the Western countries like Canada, Australia and the US, Chinese women study and work, earn a degree, then marry. They don’t care about whether they pass 28 or not. They care about what their career is after graduation. They know they will find a good man. Their parents fear and enter a time of crisis if their daughters are over 28 and unmarried.

Generally speaking, there are many unmarried women in China. They are called the leftover women. They are over 28 years old. They are educated and rich. Nowadays, there are some online Chinese dating networks that help these single women in China to find a man who is matched with their standards. These dating sites in China help the leftover women to find either men in China or Chinese American singles who live in the US.

Anyway, we are all Chinese women. If you live in China, then your marriage status is different from Chinese women in the US. The culture is different between two countries so the one’s behavior is different in terms of dating, relationship and marriage.

Why are Old Chinese Men the Ideal Husbands for Single Women in China?

Dec27

If you ask a Chinese woman about the ideal husband she wants to marry, then the answer will be the middle-aged man who is around 40 years old, successful in life, as well as who have a car and a house. A divorced Chinese man is the more preferable husband than a single man toward women in China in terms of choosing the best husband. Most of old men have male traits that young men don’t have. However, there are many unmarried ladies in this country because of these picky choice. They are “lelftover” or shang nu women who are over 28 years old and unmarried.

Old Chinese man and young woman

Old Chinese man and young woman

It is hard to find such a man who is available in China. If they are 40 and successful, then most of them are married. However, they usually have love affairs with other young women. This is another issue that single ladies are afraid of. Since Chinese girls set high standards on seeking a husband, most of them are still not married. So they have to sign up their personal ads through online dating services in China to find such a good husband. They’d rather stay single but don’t want to marry a “bad” man. From these Chinese dating sites, they are in hope to find a middle-aged man who owns a house and have a car so they are good taken care of.

Again, it is not easy to find such men in China. Most of single ladies also look for Chinese men who live in the West. This is an easier way. Nowadays, there are many single old Chinese American, Australian, Canadian men who are single and looking for a wife back home. I have to define Chinese men who live in USA, Australia, Canada, France and others so you can understand more about them. They are immigrants along with their descendants from Mainland China, Hong Kong, Macau, Taiwan, and others. Most of these guys have a hard time to find a young Chinese wife in the West so they are looking for in their hometown. This is the excellent choice for single young women back home because they are perfectly matched.

Chinese girls want to have security in life. They want to live with a man who can take care of them on safety about finance. In China, most single women are adviced to stay away from Phoenix men who discriminate and strictly choose the future wife. They are the guys who try hard in life for succeed in career so they don’t get married with less qualified than them. If a lady is not rich, then she won’t be qualified for the phoenix men.

Single girls in China have traditional thoughts about marriage. They think marriage as a lifetime commitment so divorce is shameful for the family. People have tie family relationship so they want to find a husband for life. That’s why they are looking for an old and success husbands. If you search for a Chinese single lady in China and drop her a message and you are the same or older than her 5 years old, then you won’t get a reply from her. She thinks that you are not matured enough for her. This is the reason that most young Chinese single women seeking a husband who is at least 10 years older than them.

Finally, I personally think that Chinese women have a hard time in choosing a marriage partner. There are many difficult standards they set about the husband that are getting married in the future. I suggest that single Chinese girls should use the internet dating sites to help them find such a man. Don’t just rely on introductions from relatives or friends, they must take action to find their dream husband. Age is getting older, you know?

So, old Chinese men are the ideal husbands for single, divorced or widow women in China because of their secured financial status and materials.

To all Single Chinese Women – a Secret to Find a Husband in 30 Days

Nov22

Most over 25-years-old women in China are stressful and pressured to get married because they don’t want to be in the list of Shang-Nu or leftover. Single Chinese women in this country who are over 25 years old are eagerly seeking help from marriage experts of how to get hitched. Unmarried women at this age become societal pressures that many of them don’t dare to go out in public. They don’t have enough confidence to look at their friends who are married and have kids.

Leftover women in China - Unmarried Chinese ladies

Leftover women in China – Unmarried Chinese ladies

It’s about culture. Chinese women are traditionally married early in their life. When a woman is over 26 years old, she is considered a Shang-Nu or “leftover woman” in the society. This is the insult for those women, you know? That’s the attitude that people view such unmarried women who are not chosen by men. They are stressful and usually find a way to get hitched. They don’t want to be “leftover women” in China. Chinese people don’t have sympathy for these leftover women.

In China, if you are a woman then you should get married before you approach 25. It does not matter what level of education you are pursuing, getting married is the most important thing you should do. There are many successful women in China in their career. They are not married and they become societal pressures. It is hard to them to find a man with high standards now. When it comes to pick up a counterpart, they set high standards. So, they are left over women because they are too successful.

Many experts who have been helping single women in China to find a husband but it is hard. They guarantee that these Chinese ladies will find a life partner in 90 days. I personally doubt about the high success rate of these programs. Seeking a boyfriend or a husband is not about the same method that you read from a written book. Every woman has different concepts about how to choose their life partner. As you know some single ladies in China are in a rush of finding a husband so they chose the wrong guy and file divorced after marriage.

I personally think that you’d rather live alone and be happy than live unhappily with a husband you don’t love. Being a leftover Chinese girl is nothing wrong or humiliated. You should not care much about what the society view on you. You must live for yourself. Don’t rush into finding a boyfriend that you don’t have feeling for. You will regret later on. It takes time to find that special someone.

How do single women in China find a husband?

Chinese woman n man at Christimas tree

Chinese woman n man at Christimas tree

Social networking sites and online dating services are the solution for single women in China to get hitched. You are the boss of your time in using these websites to find your significant partner. Within 30 days, you can find a boyfriend that you love and he is your lifelong counterpart. No experts help here, you do your own thing. You are the one who control your own destiny. Don’t listen to other people. When it comes to love and marriage, you must go and find it by yourself.

Days 1-5: You sign up a profile at a social networking site or a China dating site such as Asiandatenet.com or others. Waiting to get approved takes sometime. You should be honest on your profile. You also need to post your most current pictures on it. You will receive emails from men who want to make friends with you. You only reply to guys whom you like to move on.

Days 6-10: You ask these guys to video chat online via Skype, Yahoo Messenger, Tango, Viber and so on to know their face. You make sure they are real and sweet. You keep chatting with them for a few times. You decide to keep the best guys only to continue. Keep talking and chatting with these men and select two best ones.

Days 11-15: It is time to meet face to face with these two best men. You must meet each single man in different time. Precaution is the big plus. Just ask them to meet in public places like restaurants, malls and etc. When you meet each other them, try to judge him carefully by the way he talks, wears and act.

Days 16-20: You should go out with these men again. This is the second date. Keep judging him again.

Days 21-25: Continue going out with them to help you make an important decision to pick the right man.

Days 26-30: Ask them to take you to visit their family. Meet their parents and siblings and make decision for the best man who is your boyfriend and a husband in the future.

That’s the secrets for a single Chinese woman to find a husband in 30 days.

Chinese Women in Mainland China and Hong Kong about Dating & Marriage

Sep13

Chinese women in Mainland is different from women in Hong Kong. They are both Chinese but the way they act and live are not the same. There are some things you should know about these same race but act differently because they live in two different regions of China. This article will briefly explain the reasons they are different in terms of dating, relationship and marriage.

Mainland woman vs Hong Kong woman in China

Mainland woman vs Hong Kong woman in China

Many Chinese women flock to Hong Kong to give birth every week, month and year. Hong Kongers are more modernized and independent than Chinese women. They work and take care of themselves and their family. Most Chinese wives stay home to take care of their kids while Hong Kong women go to work even after they have babies.

Hong Kong people always complain about how impolite Chinese women are when they come to Hong Kong, such as spit, cut in line, loud talk and other not-right public behavior standards. They were born and raised from a great country of Asia so they treat others with more modernized ways. Chinese ladies are from China so they get used to the low standards of public behavior which make them look funny in front of women in Hong Kong.

Almost every thing in Hong Kong is far better than in China, including education, economic, medical care, society and so on. No wondering why about 40% of Chinese pregnant women flock to Hong Kong to give birth in order to get the permanent residency in this region of China. When the children have this right, they have free education from 1st grade until 12th grade (High School graduation). Generally speaking, many Chinese women pursue the dream of marrying a man in Hong Kong. There are other benefits of being a Hong Konger that you can’t find as being a Chinese.

Every year, there are about 25 millions of Chinese men and women came to Hong Kong for working. Especially, pregnant women in China come to this country to give birth and get the right for permanent residency. This is one of the reasons rate Chinese are a low class.

In terms of dating and marriage, most Chinese single women just look for men in Hong Kong. Mainland girls think that getting married with a man in Hong Kong (HK) is like “winning a lottery”. In fact, there are thousands of young Chinese girls accept to get married with old men in HK. When they get to this country and obtained a permanent residency, they file a divorce. This happens and keep happening but many old and poor single men in Hong Kong are still interested in young Chinese wife in China.

For those Mainland ladies who already lived in HK, they are certainly looking for educated men in this country. They are not seeking Mainland men in HK, unless these guys are high educated and successful in business.

Generally speaking, women in HK set with high standards in terms of marriage. Most uneducated men are not their type. They are educated and successful women so they are looking for men who match with their standards. Therefore, many low-educated or poor men in HK must go for single women in Mainland or other countries like Philippines or Vietnam.

There are many of Chinese women in China and Hong Kong signed up their profiles to look for single men at Asiandatenet.com. Chinese women in Mainland and Hong Kong are different in terms of dating and marriage because they are born and raised in two different regions of China.