There are the same mistakes that Western men made towards Thai women over and over again. You need to understand the Farang women in Thailand before you marry them. You should not read and follow the fairy tales of limited foreign men and Thai lady relationships through friends or online dating sites. You are a Western guy and she is a Thai lady, which are completely different just like two different worlds. There are some common mistakes that you should avoid while dating or marrying a Thai woman.
Where to meet your wife?
Many Western men like to travel to Bangkok and meet Thai girls in a bar and then date and marry them. Ah, this is the first mistake you make. You really don’t know for sure if she is a prostitute or a good girl. Most girls who work at the clubs are sexy so you are easy to fall on them. You can’t turn a prostitute into a wife. Most of them who work as prostitution are sweet in talking with Western men. They use the same tricks to get your sympathy. They tell you about sob stories to get you hooked up. Also, the most important trick they make is the way they make love with you. You will fall on them. So, don’t try to meet a girl in a bar and turn her into a lifelong wife.
If you have Thai friends, then you can ask them to hook you up with a girl. They know all local girls who are good in heart. If you don’t have any friend, then you can use online Thai dating sites like Asiandatenet.com or others to get acquainted with a girl before you travel to Thailand to meet her. You can chat with her via webcam chatting tools like Wechat, Skype, Yahoo Messenger, and so on. Don’t take an easy road to meet a wife in a bar or club.
How long to get know her
Don’t settle down too fast because you need to get know her for a long time. There is not an exact time frame but you are the only person who knows exactly when the right time comes. Many foreign men made the same mistakes that they decided to get married too fast, because of their little time in Thailand. They got acquainted with some girls through a Thai online dating service, traveled there for 4 weeks, decided to marry a girl in the first week so they can have 3 weeks with her. This is a mistake so don’t rush into that.
You should go there to meet her and come back to your hometown to think about before you make decision to marry her or not. I know love comes from the first sight but you marry an international wife so you must be thinking with care. Even if you have a busy schedule, think about it before making that important decision. If she is yours, then she is yours. Don’t think negatively about losing her if you don’t marry her right away.
Be polite with her family and siblings
Western men usually don’t care about her parents or siblings which result in bad failure later on. Unlike in Western countries where you knee down in front of your girlfriend to propose for marriage “would you like to marry me?”, you don’t have to do that in Thailand. What you need to do is to visit her family, talk to her parents and brothers and sisters, be friendly with them, get liked from them. To be on the safe side, ask her parents if they want you to be their son-in-law, “Hi Mr. and Mrs., I love your daughter and I like to marry her”, for instance. This will help you get a good point in her family.
Getting married with a Thai girl is extremely important that you need to thoroughly think through it. I suggest you learn about Thai culture before the wedding. If you get married with a Thai lady who lives in America, Canada, Australia or other Western countries, then you are fine because they have learned the Western culture already. For those who decide to live in Thailand, you need to learn about the culture.
Bring her to the West
After marriage, you sponsor her to your hometown. On this stage, I think you know about Thai culture. Don’t let her to be alone in making decision. You should be there for her. She is new to the country so she needs your advice. Don’t treat her as a local person who knows everything where to go. You should try to help her in getting a job and go from there.
Help her family
Once she found a job and worked for a few months, she may send money to help her parents and siblings. Don’t be selfish to stop her from doing that. If you are a nice guy, then you should try to help her family as well.
Western men have unique and beautiful traits but there are some mistakes that they made over and over again with Thai wives. I hope you learn from the past mistakes of others did, to build your own happy interracial marriage.